Because you can't have depths without surfaces.
Linda Grant, thinking about clothes, books and other matters.

Sunday, 23 March 2008

Do you want to look old?

I have a piece in today's Telegraph about a new book about to come out in the UK but which has already courted controversy in the US, Charla Krupp's 'How Not To Look Old.'

In the 1950s and 1960s there was a craze in America for a procedure called rhinoplasty, in which a cosmetic surgeon broke the patient's nose to give her a new, always smaller, one. Little upturned ski-slope noses sat on faces they did not fit, but they had solved an age-old problem: how not to look Jewish in Wasp America. When Charla Krupp published her how-to manual in America at the beginning of this year, entitled How Not To Look Old, there was something of a furore in the press. Krupp argued that, since older women were discriminated against, the best way they could deal with the issue was not by tackling the discrimination politically, but by changing the way they look. As she pointed out in the New York Times, 'There was a book on how not to look Jewish. It was called The Preppy Handbook and it was a bestseller.'

Helen Mirren
Tight jawline!

But Krupp's book touched a raw nerve in the American media. 'Age management' is the essence of her thesis. 'Until age becomes a non-issue,' she writes, 'I don't think it's particularly smart for women to advertise their age… As Christie Brinkley said in her CoverGirl commercials, "I love being the age I am, I just don't want to look it." No one wants to "look it", because of age profiling and the fear of being outed. Why does anyone, besides your doctor, need to know your age anyway?'

To the feminist baby-boomer generation it was an outrage, for they (and that includes me) were the first to challenge every assumption about women's lives from contraception to menopause. To a politically correct American media, Krupp's book was as shocking as suggesting that Barack Obama use bleaching agents to lighten his skin; and yet during the presidential race Hillary Clinton has been proudly promoting feminist values with a face that looks suspiciously stiffened by Botox and a glare of forensic scrutiny about her appearance that her Republican rival, John McCain, aged 72, has evaded. For the reality for many of those outraged women is that in a highly competitive workforce and a culture in which celebrities are never seen to age - where all the role models have had face-lifts and a 50-year-old looks 35 - it is hard to get a job when you resemble the age on your birth certificate.

The baby-boomers' unique selling point has always been youth. We are a generation born, we believed, to be young and stay younger forever, as if ageing were a lifestyle choice for our parents, a more conservative generation who longed for Crimplene dresses and set hair. But, though the generation born after the war and up to the early 1960s has rewritten most of the rules about how to behave over 40, watching iconic figures such as Twiggy age and become the face of Marks & Spencer's with-it granny look has been extraordinarily unnerving. Sir Paul McCartney's perennially bad hair-dye job, and Mick Jagger's wrinkled visage beneath his own light-brown locks, remind us that there is no real Dorian Gray option, short of the surgeon's knife.


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5 comments:

Toby Wollin said...

To me, what makes La Helen youthful looking in that photo is not her jawline, but her relatively wrinkle-free neck. When I look at that neck, the person I think of is Katherine Hepburn, who covered up her neck from about 1950 on. I can't recall a single film I ever saw her in from that period on where she was not costumed with high close necks. I also can't think of a single casual photograph I ever saw of her from them on where she was not wearing either a turtleneck or a blouse with the collars popped up.

phyllis said...

To me, Charla Krupp and Helen Mirren embody the polar opposites of “how to grow old”. Cher or Susan Sarandon? Joan Rivers or Chita Rivera? Or Jane Fonda or Vanessa Redgrave?

I think it’s just a matter what we want individually in terms of a role model. How this plays out in the US depends very much on what part of the country you live in; on the West Coast and in the South the model is more Charla Krup, and in the Northeast its more Dame Helen.

Deja Pseu said...

I've posted elsewhere that Charla Krupp looks like every other Trophy Wife-bot you see in Newport Beach. Not a look I want to emulate. I think French women on the whole do "age" better than anyone.

miss cavendish said...

I began to go gray when I worked in New York(!) in my very early thirties. At that point I'd simply pluck stray strands, not wanting to do anything drastic.

Just last week, some ten years later, I decided that my graying temples weren't matching the rest of me and had, for the first time ever, a single process color, followed by more familiar highlights.

I don't entirely recognize the woman in the mirror, whose temples are now a "dark golden blonde"--what my hair is naturally on the sides and back--but she's someone whose look should be maintained, well groomed. And she's a visual reminder to keep wearing cuts and colors that are flattering, advice that your article wisely advocates.

Della Street Dreaming said...

Linda - since I discovered your blog which was the subject of a Sydney newspaper article, I look forward to reading it every day.
I particularly love your entries on AGE. I have just turned 55. I'd love you & your readers to look at my blog, which showcases My Own Personal Wardrobe & Aging Journey.
www.dellastreetdreaming.blogspot.com